Many mothers nursing their many children is a human nation; one mother nursing her own child is alienation.
One would think with the coming of propertifying civilization and the loss of depth in tribal connections, the loosed individuals would need to sharpen their sensitivity to fill in the gaps that were now missing given the loss of so much camaraderie. Instead of advancing in this fashion, to evolve into these magnificent independent individuals, humans agreed biologically to become less than they were in their unity. Disease of thought coincides with the disease of body. The lessening of oxytocin, the lessening of agility movements, the lessening of nutrient density in diets, the lessening of the range of experience by being stuck in a more localized geography—all these losses led to a lessening in sensitivity. It is both a specific and generalized desensitization, a devolution of our species affirmed by cultural institutions that would now harbor and modulate a great deal of human emotions and experiences, narrowing their actual and acceptable ranges.
The disease of imtribalism was contrived in the wintering lands where private survival, at first a means to keep surviving, became the very ends. Thus an example of when the means became the ends—ends in need of ending…
The greatest marriage is not that of a couple, but of a tribe; it does not begin with priestly words, but at beastly conception, from parents multiple, of love polyamorous, profuse—a strong web. The greatest nurture is to be raised by a multitude of parents that go far beyond your two progenitors of a stricter scientific understanding. A whittling down of the parents from forty-two to two, subtracts the child down to negative forty—it should be no wonder that raising children these days can feel as the greatest burden. The death of a tribe in a nuclear holocaust is worsted by the birth of a child in a nuclear family; if you think this hyperbole experiment with the thought that the tribe died crying together, and the baby was born among unfeeling strangers that did not reciprocate her tears, your perspective will shift profoundly.
The work that should be shared among 80 of a tribe, is now the burden of 2 parents or even 1 single parent. Zero parents—and zero children—is not long off.
Most individuals have a plurality of sides to them that are deeply flawed—missing qualities paired alongside with grand over-compensations that would have others in “the normal range” feeling vacant and flawed by comparison. These flaws are constantly revealed to the therapist and personality analyst types among us because an individual is rarely whole on their own; a conclusion these professionals are usually blind to is that an individual is an idiosyncratic puzzle piece that must have vulnerabilities and additional capacities to fit in with a more complete picture, albeit a large family or tribe. Lacking this tribe to fit in with is the great flaw, for tribe-lessness is the great disease and a puzzle that we seem farthest from solving, for truly we need others to complete us.
The more of all of us there is, the more of each of us there is.
Industrial civilization has eaten away our tribal identity and worn us down to the gradient point of having a mere individual identity (a stability unknown previously); civilization is as a thorn fixed in the side for too long, that inevitably leaves the afflicted as thin and biting as the thorn itself.
Born of 40 parents and married at original contact, instead of 2 parents and a state-sanctioned marriage contract.
Children, even babies, need not always be in the immediate proximity of their parents for their biological parents to feel at ease. There just needs to be a sense that there is parenting going on, which is why when corporate day cares take over childcare, there is usually some reluctance or ill-at-ease that happens with the legalized parents. This only lasts for a time, but it is a very real distinction between a bond to someone that is to share in the parenting that need not be tied with money, and a bond that is exclusively due to the medium of money being utilized. The tribe as parent and the tribe as child has been replaced with the nuclear family and biological parenting almost exclusively, and because these are such intrinsically weak models immunologically, the disease of monetary profitable daycares starts to materialize.
Religion fills the vacuum left by a lack of a tribal family—in other words there grows a lack of people to invest worship in. We are built to worship, but in lacking a secular worship opportunity (a tribe) we worship a fanciful supernatural element. We are supposed to worship one another.
Your whole self is fully realized not when it is entirely apart from the group, but when it is absolutely a part of the group.
An individualist culture that produces utterances saying “what does it matter? I’ll be dead in one hundred years” does not have much farther to devolve. Despite the individualism, the voice that echoes such words is still that of a tribe, one its throes of death; individualism is hopeless.
Reestablishing tribal societies rids us of the need to tediously parse through the ingenuous and the disingenuous actors who easily make prey of our havoc-worn world.
We are in a time of unique and unprecedented levels of grief to be absorbed by singular individuals. Put numerically, when a tribe of 80 loses 1 of their own, the 79 survivors all have one another to lean on in this tragic time, and the child/parent/lover lost was in all likelihood not the only one “specialized” in that role with relation to the other 79. Now with the nuclear family in it’s most crude form, there is a tribe of 4 each in a specialized role (without redundancy) of a mother, father, daughter and son. When one of these gets sick or injured, or dies, the vulnerable nuclear family is hurt and in death quite devastated. Tragedy exposes the very weak internal web and allows disease (lawyers, therapists, pharmaceuticals) to come and prey on a failing eco-system; tribes never needed nor allowed the emergence of these diseases because they were so strong on a blend of layers. Make no mistake—a tribe does not dilute each of it’s members to insignificance; rather, a tribe is a more evolved drink with emergent properties making it quite potent, too, available to quench the thirst of all. The tribe is not necessarily the only referent point—thinking about it that way might be a uniquely skewed view imposed on our thought by our peculiar times; tribes might be best evaluated by looking at person to person relationships in a specific time frame, judged against what we have now. Did tribal people choose to pay attention to a medium rather than a person in their immediate vicinity thirsting for interaction? It takes a village… and now a village is taken. A shared grieving process is the only grieving process.
WE, because ME alone is upside down.
Soul searching is often misdirected, for we are looking deep within ourselves when really it is others we are searching for.
Not knowing whose child is whose, where no lover is no one’s only lover, where one’s father is not one’s only father, where one’s child is not one’s only child. The more the merrier without the more the Malthusian mortality. More relations without more mouths to feed.
Stray from the herd you’ll find yourself living, stray from the tribe and you’ll be found dying.
I trust a people I do not know, I do not trust a person I do not know.